I need to vent....

[Lil-Lightsout]

blackbelt2003 Wrote:Dude, I know how you feel with the arguing and stuff.


We've got two kids and the finances are all good, but just the stress of me working long hours and the kids aren't the best sleepers is enough to have us ready to tear the other's head off.


But I'm the same as you in that I don't argue back. I deal with stress all day running my own little business, the last thing I need is to go off on it at home, so I usually just let it lie, and consequently she always thinks she's the winner of every argument and that I'm in the wrong.


And the few times I do bite back I get accused of always arguing and making the situation worse. Can't frigging win.


How much of a bitch do I sound? I need to man up and turn into a 1950's alpha male.




Black

You sound nothing like a bitch, just speaking the truth. It's funny cause when we were teenagers and in to our early 20's I used to flip the fvck out at her all the time the way she treated me, and it scared her with my temper rants. Now I do not yell back, let her win also, and just walk away. AND it really pisses her off!

Yeah my job stresses me out too, as it does most people, and with my shift I do not get to see my wife and kids near as much as I would like too. And what bothers me the most by far is that it really does not get to her. She NEVER says I miss you and wish... Now I really am sounding like a bitch.

I will say this about the wife, despite our recent problems, she is a hard working woman and she is a great mother to our kids.