I need to vent....

[Spyder]

I don't know why, but marriage is the biggest test that my manhood has ever had. When you're single, the shit is easy. If you don't like it, then you bounce. But being married takes a level of courage and commitment that single men are unprepared for. I was. The ability to empower someone with your own ideas, and keep a common goal in mind is some inception type shit that we married men go through some days. I told my boss the other day when he was bitching about HIS boss..."You have to empower your boss. Make him feel like your ideas are his ideas. That's the only way that you can get what you want."

I use that same strategy when dealing with him, yet he didn't even realize it. I use it with my wife as well. I don't view it as humbling yourself, or even selling yourself short. I view it as playing chess, while the rest of the world is playing checkers.