I need to vent....

[JD]

lloyd mayflower Wrote:

JD Wrote:I can't say that it is tougher year one than 4 or 5 because I am only through the first year...but I would like to think experience and understanding will help make things easier.

Year one is a struggle...especially for someone like me who has a hard time accepting that he is married. On a daily basis I will ask myself "are you really married?", and the mere fact that I have to learn to adjust to the fact that I cannot just leave is work enough. Shit's bad...figure it out. Want to snap...sort it out. Need a weekend off...may not work out that way.

Marriage is a lot of reality for a person.

I dont mean year 4 or 5 of marriage, I mean presumably you were with your mrs for a few years before you married? So why after that time, where things were good enough for you to decide to marry eachother, does that piece of paper change shit and make it difficult?

I dont mean you specifically JD, just the married guys in general. I dont doubt that it happens, EVERYONE thats married says it, I just dont understand why

Ok...got it.

Yep, we were together for something like 7 years. What makes it different is mindset. You wake up in the morning and you look over and realize that you are with this person and will be with them at the end of the day - marriage really fucks with freewill. Some men see this as a positive and like having a partner they can count on being there, others feel suffocated by it.

It's all mindset.