I need to vent....

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Its something about once you're married, women just get too comfortable and take shit for granted. The sex slows. BJ's become endangered species, on the brink of extinction, etc. etc. Shit just changes, cuz you're done. Out of the game. Off the market. MARRIED!

Hahaha.

AKAY is right, there is an aspect of it that does drain your "Man-ness". It just works out that way.

I've been through it all. And its all good, but there's a lot of bullshit involved too. I can't say that, given the choice to do it over, that I would do it all over again. I also can't say that I wouldn't. There are opportunity costs galore on both sides of the fence.

One thing you should ("you" used collectively, not anyone in particular) ask yourself is this - How would you feel if the life was to be snatched out of your sig other, and you both knew it was coming?

One thing I can say from experience, you really don't know how strong your relationship with your woman is until you are forced to face the fire together in some shit that came out of nowhere. On the life of my kids you find out how fucking PETTY and FUTILE a lot of the shit you all fight over, argue about, resent each other for is. And how much wasted time you spent over it. When suddenly you get hit with a situation that gives you a finite end to it all, you look back and think, "Fuck, I cant believe we pissed all this time away arguing/hating each other over PETTY BULLSHIT".

In short, Make Love, not war.

Also, and I actually have used this as a few weddings where I was a best man and had to speak, and it comes from my boy (and our fellow contributor) Gary Randall (BoxingCritic), he said to me one time (a long time ago), "JB, never stop dating your wife". And it is so fucking true.