I need to vent....

[Big Slim]

Fitz I think if she wants to get coffee with you, you can get coffee with her. Just don't ever be the one to bring it up, remind her, ask when it's happening again, etc. Just like how she asked you the other day and you kinda had to say yes, if she asks you to go sometime on the spot and you feel up for it, go ahead and get coffee with her. Not that big a deal. Just don't let it be a regular thing or allow her to start unloading her feelings on you.

At the gym, stick with the banter, but keep some distance. When you flirt, make sure you're the one to cut it off one line too soon before she cuts it off one line too late. In a few weeks, she'll begin to wonder whether you ever really asked her out or if it was all just her fantasy. When the time is right to ask her again, she'll let you know.