I need to vent....

[ViperSniper]

JD Wrote:Here is the problem...going to coffee says to her that this is on her terms and that you are ok having a chat as friends while she maintains a very new relationship with some other guy she is screwing.

It sets the tone that she is in control and that you are going to do what she wants, which we already know isn't what you want.

Coffee is risky, yes, and should be avoided in this case. "Coffee" is however may not be the worst tho (as long as it doesn't become a regular!) It could be a nice opportunity to get to know her a lil better, sus out the waters withot being on a date then leave. Leave her with a sample and most likely a good impression as well.

Then leave it as that. If she brings it up again then tell her like it is! She may end up realizing what she REALLY wants.