I need to vent....

[Fitz]

SmartyBeardo Wrote:

STEVENSKI Wrote:Just be yourself & play to your strengths not attempt to be something you are not. If you are not a bastard then don't try & be one just be who you are. If that means you are a nice approchable guy then so be it.

True, but don't leave out the rest of the story.

Nice, approachable guys are taken for granted. They are the guys that can be counted on if a chick can't get the dude she craves. They are the 2000 Toyota Echo. You can get her there but she will be fantasizing about the 2012 Jag the whole way.

I am very, very aware of this also, lol.

There can be a middle ground. You can be nice, but firm and tell it how it is if it comes down to it. I think there is a difference between being a 'nice approachable' person, and a 'yes man/people pleaser' who allow themselves to get walked over. Though people pleasers tend to be 'nice guys' as well, as they can go hand in hand, so it does make sense. But they can be separated.