Effing Marriage...

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(06-03-2017 09:45 PM)Spyder Wrote:  My MIL is every bad quality that people can have, all put in one person. She is like the Voltron of shit.

She is a constant one upper. Anytime someone tries to tell a story, within seconds, she'll interrupt them and tell a vaguely related story that makes her appear like the expert in it. This doesn't stop with the one story though, she does it for the entire visit completely monopolizing the "conversation". If I have the doomed luck of being trapped on a night out with her, then anything that she didn't plan will be stupid. That's the same for anything that was not one of her Holiday traditions. She'll always tell you why her traditions are better, and laugh condescendingly if you don't agree. She takes constant shots at anyone not in the family, myself included, but gets immediately offended at anything given in return. At mixed family gatherings, she'll pick out one of our friends and trap them in "conversation" for the duration. The whole time purposely avoiding interaction with anyone else. She is a constant manipulator, trying to turn the most benign comments into declarations of war. She is a relationship destroyer, who purposefully wedges herself in the middle of her kids' relationships. Not just with their spouses, but with their father and friends as well. She destroyed her own family by fucking a colleague, then when her husband wanted a divorce, she moved the kids 6 states away so he couldn't see them easily. If you ever ask her about it, the whole thing was his fault because "he didn't talk to her". She is a fat, lazy, selfish, piece of shit, and if she died of a diabetic stroke...then I would take it as the Lord doing the rest of the world a solid.

Spyder, it's obvious that your MIL has gone through some trauma in her childhood and is just projecting it onto those that are close to her. Maybe try listening to her. Maybe she just needs a safe space to feel vulnerable. I mean, haven't we all had these sort of things happen at one point of our own lives?










Just playin'.

That sounds fucking horrible. Sorry to hear you're in that situation. Shit, this thread is like "What to look out for before getting married." LOL. Thanks fellas.

(I'm being serious about this part, btw.)